The other side…
The world that we imagine, wish for, fantasize. If we could escape, that’s where we’d go.
- It may be the sound of the sea, the splashing of the surf, a fluttering sail, the whirr of a fishing line.
- It may be the smell of grass, the whack of the club on the ball and following its arc high across to the eighteenth hole.
- It may be the crunch of snow beneath your skis.
- It may be the voices and laughter of family and kids at a playground.
- It may be the boarding call to your next destination.
- It may be the completion of a humanitarian project.
You know there is “the other side”. You can see it from here. Others actually are there. You even know some of these “others”. The problem is you are not one of the “others”.
You are YOU.
The moment that we draw a comparison between ourselves and those who we believe to be on the other side, we assign a side to ourselves.
And inevitably it is the side we are on, not the other side. Its the side with the challenges, the side with the limitations, the side with the cash-flow problem, the side with the 9-to-5.
Drawing that comparison opens up a huge chasm.
This chasm is so wide, crossing it requires resources we do not have. And that is absolutely true!
This chasm is so deep, we can barely discern the fog down there that conceals unimaginable threats in its shadows (should we survive a fall).
This chasm is so overwhelming, that crossing it is lethal, a venture reserved exclusively for hero-like bravado, for the luckiest ones, the others.
This chasm is in your imagination.
You created it when you created “the others”.
The others on the other side did not see a chasm, they did not have a chasm, they simply walked. They did not consider themselves to be the others, they are who they are.
Closing that chasm requires a zen-like thinking: the dissolution of duality.
In order to dissolve it me must first recognise it.
When you acknowledge that you consider yourself as separate, you can deliberately cease to categorise yourself as separate. Of course you are special. But what differentiates all of us from another is our starting point. We all have this in common: From wherever it is that you are right now, whatever the circumstances, your resources, your time, you can go anywhere else. But in order to do that, you must close the chasm.
Use the force, Luke.
Whatever it takes.
When there is no duality, there is no chasm. When there is no chasm, there is no fear. When there is no fear we can walk freely to wherever it is we wanted to go. And when you go wherever it is you want to go while being yourself, some will see you as the others. And from wherever it is you are looking, you will laugh and think “It’s just me, and if could do it, so can you”.
Of course this is easier said than done, but ultimately it is fear, not capability that keeps the chasm open. Only you can close it, and only you know if that what is on the other side is worth your effort.
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